so i've been reading this book: how to have a beautiful mind - Edward de Bono

i am an absolute fan of self-help books. there are things we notice in this world, but we seem to let pass by. these self-help books put it down in real words, and those little things we let run over us, suddenly become a little different.

so anyway, the intro starts off by talking giving a little hypothetical of a beautiful woman at a party. people come and surround her, but soon leave. on the other hand, there is a short bald man, who grabs everyone's attention. so there we have it. not necessarily brains over beauty, but mind over beauty.

we can do all we can to make ourselves look beautiful on the outside, but once people start talking to you, and you have a shit mind.. well, nothing great to look for in there, is there?

de Bono (hehe cool last name) brings up a very good point in his book: for a good discussion to occur, we must have a balance between agreement and disagreement.

the thing that interested me the most, was the 'point of disagreement' bit. there is nothing wrong with disagreeing, as he says.. however, it is the attitude and the way we choose to disagree which can be disheartening at times. there are people who disagree in a rude way, people who disagree to win a battle, people who disagree to 'vaunt their ego' and people who disagree to demonstrate superiority.

i must admit, i am guilty of.. ALL of these.

--- interlude---- ken ate most of my ferrero rocher. i am so angry ---interlude ---

yes, i am guilty!! i have trouble distinguishing between having a different opinion and disagreeing with a different opinion. weird, right ? we can have different opinions and accept it as different. different opinions does not always mean we must agree.

- ok done!

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so my last weekend ended up at chaddy, for the gazillionth time. both saturday and sunday actually.

saturday, FINALLY saw anth again T_T" like after ages..... !
so babe, me, anth and KL went to chaddy.. and like usual, me and b were being the biggest idiots ever. went to have our teaaaaaaa! and then just watched anth and KL buy homeware.. (is that what you call it?) well, it was massively, massively boring - i can say. but it was interesting looking at the range of things u can buy to cook eggs. they even have this timer to show u how cooked your egg is - too cool!!!

so then KL's eyes got this massive infection so anth too her to the doc's all the way in richmond. walked around at chaddy looking for cuff links for babe.. in which we did find two really good ones :D (chosen by me!, duh!)

my brother came, drove b to john's house for his 19th dinner...... and then i went home! :)

sunday... went with loc to chaddy...... we went to borders and had GJ, i want to get this book called 'call girl' ... or was it callgirls? i dno, but it was about this lady and she was a uni lecturer and then at night she was a call girl! well, it was actually the author herself telling a true story.. so yes. i might get that book...~

haha - b and me also made spag one night... well, actually, i made it for him. he ate SOSOSOSo much! (H) i am a good cook yo!~

ok i'm out of things to talk about
i still
still
still
still
haven't got
that
bloody
formal dress.
and the lady said it'd cost me extra $6.50 just for postage handling to see the dress, not even buy it. ..... like wth. but w/e

prob chaddy tmr night to see if i really want it T_T "
& i am currently, so in love, so so in love with AJ RAFAEL
he is....... (L)
and cathy nguyen.. has become an inspiration to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ^_^